Languishing long-distance lover

Question:

I was in a great relationship that ended when my girlfriend moved away. Every time she comes back into town we spend the weekend together as if we were in love again, but we tell people that we aren't dating. Neither of us seeing anyone else, and we're miserable being apart. Should we cut the cord or commit to being in the same place?

Answer:

Well sugarlips, is her kiss so sweet that no one else's will do? If so, you two girls need to get yourselves to the same city. If you're just using her as an excuse to not put yourself out there again, well, that's another story. Long-distance love can work for a while, and can be wildly romantic while it lasts. She comes in, you two go out on the town, you suddenly have a warm body next to you for a few days, and then she's gone again before things get complicated. But as you know, real relationships take work, people aren't always charming and beautiful and at their best, and in the end, you probably deserve more than a few weekends here and there.

Be the wind beneath your own damn wings

Question: A bunch of my college friends are married now, my work friends are busy, and my one remaining good single college buddy is hopeless as a wingman. How is a nice guy supposed to meet the ladies all by himself?

Answer:

Oh my little would-be Romeo, fear not. Hark, what light through yonder suck-it-up-wussy window breaks? It is you at the bar by yourself, and it's going just fine. There is nothing wrong with going out by yourself. You might meet a girl in the same situation. Look for the really sad, vulnerable-looking ones, and buy them a drink. Listen to their sad, sad stories. Or start the night with your hapless single friend so you look like a fun guy who can sustain a platonic relationship with another man, and then send him packing when you've caught the eye of your Juliet of the night.

We get five of these a week

Question: I've had a recent outbreak of unrequited love. What should I do?

Answer: Well loverboy, Answer Meister certainly hopes you're being poetic, and aren't talking about an outbreak of the clap. First, a few questionss. Do you know that this love is unrequited, meaning, have you talked to your dulcet darling to let him or her know how you feel? Or...are you just lacking the balls to speak up? If the first, well, I'm sorry. But aren't you glad that you put yourself out there? So many things in this life go unsaid, and I'm of the opinion that we're the worse off for it. Yes, life is smoother when there are no uncomfortable pauses and when no one has to say "I'm sorry, but you're my first cousin, I'm not attracted to you" but I think it's less genuine. And if you haven't said anything yet, I say go for it, unless you'll lose your job or face criminal sanctions. (Answer Meister does not approve of statutory). Or, sit on your feelings and regret it. Mmm...the sweet taste of regret and lost chances.